For some women it’s really difficult to accept going up a dress size.  As someone who suffered from anorexia for over 20 years I can completely relate to this feeling.  This really is about self-esteem and how we perceive ourselves.

If I tried something on in a size 8 when I was starting to gain weight and it didn’t’ fit, I would come up with reasons not to buy. I would not even entertain the idea of trying on a size 10.

So what changed? I would like to say that I had an epiphany moment and realised that I looked much better for my height and build as a size 10.

But the truth is that it was a gradual acceptance. Years later I find myself having a conversation with myself in the changing rooms at times, which often goes like this…

Sensible Me (SM) – Why did you pick up the 8 when you knew it looked too small?

Less Rational Me (LRM) – Errr not sure

SM – You are only going to be disappointed when it doesn’t fit

LRM – You may be right

SM [Shakes head and pushes call button for assistant – a size swap is done]

LRM – [Tries on dress] Well what do you think?

SM – Looks good – nice clingy number – not even a VPL

LRM – S’pose …

While you may feel good in one sense if you can squeeze into that smaller size, take a long hard look in the mirror.

Be honest with yourself – are there lumps and bumps, a muffin top or unsightly bulges? …

Now try on the next size up and see the difference.

Dress in clothing that’s a size too small and it’s a form of unrelenting self-punishment.

It is a reminder of your perceived body image issues.   Clothes feel uncomfortable or you’re self-conscious about lumps and bumps.

The only person who knows what size is hanging in your wardrobe is you. But others can see when you are wearing a size that’s too small.

Lumps Show Labels Do Not

Remember you can always remove the size label!