For some women it’s really difficult to accept going up a dress size. As someone who suffered from anorexia for over 20 years I can completely relate to this feeling. This really is about self-esteem and how we perceive ourselves.
If I tried something on in a size 8 when I was starting to gain weight and it didn’t’ fit, I would come up with reasons not to buy. I would not even entertain the idea of trying on a size 10.
So what changed? I would like to say that I had an epiphany moment and realised that I looked much better for my height and build as a size 10.
But the truth is that it was a gradual acceptance. Years later I find myself having a conversation with myself in the changing rooms at times, which often goes like this…
Sensible Me (SM) – Why did you pick up the 8 when you knew it looked too small?
Less Rational Me (LRM) – Errr not sure
SM – You are only going to be disappointed when it doesn’t fit
LRM – You may be right
SM [Shakes head and pushes call button for assistant – a size swap is done]
LRM – [Tries on dress] Well what do you think?
SM – Looks good – nice clingy number – not even a VPL
LRM – S’pose …
While you may feel good in one sense if you can squeeze into that smaller size, take a long hard look in the mirror.
Be honest with yourself – are there lumps and bumps, a muffin top or unsightly bulges? …
Now try on the next size up and see the difference.
Dress in clothing that’s a size too small and it’s a form of unrelenting self-punishment.
It is a reminder of your perceived body image issues. Clothes feel uncomfortable or you’re self-conscious about lumps and bumps.
The only person who knows what size is hanging in your wardrobe is you. But others can see when you are wearing a size that’s too small.
Lumps Show Labels Do Not
Remember you can always remove the size label!